Come and meet me and learn more about life INSIGHTS on Saturday February 20th, 2010 from 9:00am to 12:00pm at Minnetonka High School. I would love to meet all the wonderful families that are interested in adoption, have adopted children or anyone who has a question or comment about any or all of the above 🙂

There are MANY resources in the Minnetonka/Western Suburbs area…. please come and be a part of the Minnetonka Parent Fair. You will have a chance to meet lots of great people and learn how you can improve your life and the life of your family! You can email me at for more information. Can’t wait to see everyone there!


There has been much debate about the lost children of Haiti. As of recently I have heard “Who do we think we are to take the children away from their culture and heritage” to “These children need families and there are families here to love them…put politics aside and see that there can be goodness in people’s hearts”.  This got me thinking….because I help families deal with these issues on a regular basis.

A wonderful adoptive mother that I know asked me recently whether or not I had an opinion on “what is too much or too little when it came to introducing her adopted child to his/her culture”.  She expressed opinions that her family and friends had given her and was struggling with finding a balance for her family.  I like to keep my opinions to myself as much as possible because I like to believe that my job is to “guide” my clients towards the answer within themselves (sounds corny I know…but so true!) but I can share stories (anonymously and details are changed to protect identities) to help others touch on possible scenarios that they can relate to and maybe learn from.

In terms of my opinion here is what I can say. I do know that each and every person always has his or her opinion. And most likely no ONE person is going to be able to please everyone. Right and wrong can be such abstract qualities. How do you KNOW someone is right? How do you KNOW someone is wrong? Is there a tangible way to know for SURE? When an act is committed is there a light that goes off above that says “THIS IS WRONG”. When it comes to loving your biological child, adoptive child or a child in another country that needs a home…. can you really call is WRONG? There are times when opinions will point to an alternative approach that may be more suitable or more ideal. But let’s be honest, in our daily lives I would say each of us makes at least one decision a day that isn’t the absolute, most right, most ideal decision…ie; like that cinnabun I had for breakfast this morning instead of that healthy egg white I swore I was going to have 😉

Now of course, raising a child and breakfast decisions are like comparing apples to pasta….. and I don’t intend to imply that the course of a child’s identity be compared to a breakfast decision. My only point being…. let’s embrace the kind hearts of all of the millions of people that get up every day and try to make it a better place for you, for me and for their child…however that child came into their lives. Let’s have faith in the knowledge that families come together in the most miraculous of circumstances. A lot of time…miracles happen because a whole lot of RIGHTS and a whole lot of WRONGS come together into a beautiful, chaotic, unparalleled mess.

To the little babies and children of Haiti who have been forever separated from their families, my only dream for you is that you find your miracle, big or small, and touch the hearts of many.

Hello everyone!

Due to last minute cancellations (work, family and last minute school activities..hey it happens) I have decided to reschedule the first meeting for Thursday March 4, 2010. The meeting will take place at my office in Minnetonka. The address is 11900 Wayzata Blvd #116G Minnetonka, MN 55305.  Everyone is excited and we have 6 families signed up as of now.  If you are new to the blog or life INSIGHTS in general, I have re-posted the details of the group below. If you are interested please contact me so I can put you on the group list. Thanks everyone!


Come together and join fellow parents at the Post-Adoption Parent Network group starting Thursday March 4, 2010. Groups will be facilitated by Kara Priesmeyer, MA. Kara currently runs a private practice in Minnetonka, MN specializing in Post Adoption and Family Attachment Therapy.  She has over three years of experience working directly with children, adolescents and their families in their post adoption journey. Encouraging identity exploration for your kids, discussing school and peer issues, and addressing birth family curiosities are just a few of the topics that will be covered for the group. Group participants will have many opportunities to share their own stories and increase their awareness of others in the community that are experiencing the same concerns and questions.  Kara is an adoptee herself, born in Seoul, Korea and traveled back to Korea in 2005 to meet her birth family.

The Post-Adoption Parent Network will meet at 11900 Wayzata Blvd Suite 116G Minnetonka, MN 55305:

Thursday March 4, 2010 from 6:30-8:00pm

Thursday April 1, 2010 from 6:30-8:00pm

The month of May will be determined with the group closer towards the date.

Cost: $15.00 per night per person or $20.00 per couple.

Please contact Kara Priesmeyer at 612-710-0125 or email her at to sign up!